It’s 4:11am, I’m sitting with my feet up in the Bombay airport; patiently waiting for my flight to Kathmandu, Nepal. In a few hours I’ll be in the mountains… I can already see the snow-capped peaks, feel the cool, brisk air and smell the divine rich scent of nature. As I visualize what’s to come, I can’t help but smile and reflect on where I’ve been, who I’ve met and what I’ve learned to date. Many profound experiences, beautiful people and thought provoking insights have filled my life. It’s crazy to think how different my journey would have been had I chosen to stay in Toronto… Although there is nothing ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ with where I am right now, acknowledging the results of MY actions, and recognizing what I’ve chosen to create, perpetually demonstrates that we are the architects of our lives and are constantly CHOOSING our realities.
Yet, so often I hear people speak of the world as a limiting place. They point fingers and accuse it of holding them back because of its boundaries, rules, social structures and standards – forgetting it is they (the self) who creates and enables these restrictions; it is they who choose how big or small they play this game called ‘life’; it is they who decide how far they outstretch their arms, throw back their head and surrender; it is they who choose whether or not they will open themselves up to the possibilities around them…
Recently, I have found the topic of ‘opening up’ to come up a lot among clients and friends. And this often led to a discussion about this ‘thing’ called love.
Love… A word we hear so often yet I wonder, do we really know what it means? Let’s explore this thought of ‘What is love?’ shall we….
According to the Dalai Lama, “Love is the absence of judgement.” So, to truly love and for love to be most present, my understanding is one would have to abstain from judging the situation and the Other, and instead let love be at the forefront of your thoughts.
Mr. Albert Einstein mentioned that “Love is a better teacher than duty.” Now, if I were to exchange the word ‘duty’ for another word such as ‘obligation’, the definition becomes rather interesting. While we have our ‘obligations’ in this world, the statement highlights one can learn much more by being loving. Rather than repeatedly delving into and consuming oneself with ‘obligations’ and what a person thinks they ‘should’ be doing, focusing one’s energy on love and being loving, and seeing where that leads may shift priorities and open new avenues.
Lastly, Abdu’l-Baha indicated that “Love is the greatest law in the vast Universe of God!” Put simply, love is the most profound guideline in our Universe and should be followed.
No matter which teacher, philosopher, spiritual guru, scientist or forward thinker I looked into when asking ‘what is love’, all spoke of it very simply. So why then do we make it so complicated?
You wish to have love in your life? Okay, so be loving! How many of us crave for the ‘ecstasy of love’ yet fail to be loving and include love in all that we do?
You seek a loving partner, yet you curse about your boss behind his back…That’s not very loving. You want someone to tell you that they love you for no apparent reason, yet when’s the last time you called your parents, grandparents, sibling or friend out of the blue simply to say that you love them? What you want, wants something of you. Consider if you wish to have love you have to give it in order to receive it…. It’s an exchange.
It was the Great Mother Teresa who said, “Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.”
I think you’ll be surprised at the results that will begin to occur in your life when you genuinely start being loving and living a love-driven life! You’ll begin to see that love is all around and there is always someone to love and express compassion too. It could be your cleaning lady, the barista at your favourtie cafe, a pet, a colleague, etc. Practice being loving with all those you come into contact with and see what happens.
In Czech ‘Laska’ means love. As such, every time I hear my name I am reminded to reply in love and with love.
Love is… unlimited and it’s everywhere!